Lately, I’ve come across way too many of the “take her swimming on the first date” memes. I’ve also seen many posts by women saying things like “I don’t have to highlight and contour because I’m not ugly,” and I feel like once again, we need to set the record straight.
Women do not wear make up to please men.
Let me repeat that.
Women. Do. Not. Wear. Make up. To. Please. Men.
We also don’t wear make up to please each other. But we do, however, wear make up for ourselves.
Who I am is so much deeper than what’s on my face.
I am a daughter, a friend, and a girlfriend. I am a Christian, a peacemaker, and a giver. I am sarcastic, witty, and shy. I am a tomboy, I can change my own oil and rotate my own tires, and I’m stubbornly independent. And for any male to try and put me in a box based on what I decide to put or not put on my face is ludicrous.
I wear make up because I enjoy putting it on. I like playing with new products and techniques (there’s nothing better than a fresh eyeshadow pallet). I like the way I look when I’m done. I, personally, look put-together and more professional. I feel more confident. I feel like I’m a little closer to Beyonce. I do not wear make up to please men. The only males I owe anything to are Jesus, my father, and my boyfriend, and I’m pretty sure the three of them give zero craps.
I am not superficial, shallow, or stuck-up. I am not unintelligent, incapable, or fragile. And I am certainly not a “liar” (sorry, guys, if you actually think women have sparkly eyelids and black lines across our lashes).
I am blessed enough to have a boyfriend that couldn’t care less whether or not I wear make up. A man that never asked, never mentioned it, and when I finally hung out without it on, didn’t say a word except to tell me I was still beautiful. I’m one of the lucky ones.
But, I’ve been on the opposite, not-so-lucky end as well with a guy who wouldn’t take me out if I didn’t “try” hard enough. Ladies, never let a man (or another woman) degrade you for how you chose to wear your face. Want to go all natural? You go, girl. Want to wear a face full of MAC? Go rock it. You owe nothing to anybody, except to be yourself.
Ladies, don’t tear down other women because of their choice to wear or not wear make up. If it’s not your face, its not your concern. We should be more concerned with bettering ourselves and each other intellectually and spiritually than whether or not Suzy next door has mastered the blended shadow or not.
The point of all of this is- looks only go so far. Your soul is what people are going to be attracted to. Who you are on the inside is something that no amount of make up or not-make up could ever cover up. Let people get to know you, whether that includes a little eyeliner or not.
Whether or not a woman choses to throw on a contour or not has nothing to do with who she is as a human being. Wearing or not wearing make up also does not make one better than another. Of all the things going on in the world, the last thing we should be worried about is a little winged liner and some bomb brows. So let’s stop the hating, shall we?